6 Things Every Mom Should Do in 2015
I know, it’s halfway through January and already all of your New Year’s resolutions are broken.
That’s why you don’t make them.
But, I do!
I think they are a great way for us to look back at the previous year, think about what was awesome and what wasn’t, and then take some time to focus and remind ourselves that you need to be more better if you desire to accomplish anything other than the muffin top you’ve been sporting since the early 2000s.
But, I want to encourage you to do more than sign up for a gym membership you won’t use or give up sugar except for in coffee, cookies, cupcakes, and ice cream.
I want you to take a full day to think about what you want for yourself this year and then come up with at least three things you can do to make that happen. And when you’re done, add every single one of the things below to your list of musts for 2015.
Focus on you. I know, it’s hard. The baby is sick, and the toddler is tired, and the husband got a new job so he’s exhausted and cranky and hungry the exact moment he walks in the door. And your boss is all over your back, and your mother-in-law is moving in, and everyone needs your every-single-thing that you have in you. I know. Been there. Will be there again. It’s motherhood and we all know the struggle of the struggle. But, struggle makes you strong; strong makes you capable; being capable means that you can insist. I insist you insist. You owe it to your sick baby, and your tired toddler, and your hungry husband, and his needy mama, and to you.
Say no. And also, yes. I want to help my friends. I want to do what I can for those in need. I want to serve the community. I want to save the day, because I’m super. But, only I’m not. And, deep down, I know that. And, I need to make sure everyone else knows that too. But, saying ‘no’ is one of those things I have always found difficult. Except for when it comes to my children—somehow they are well aware of my ability to say ‘no.’ Because they get to experience it way more often than anyone else on the planet. Explore the awesome of ‘yes’ where the little ones are concerned. If you free up some time by saying ‘no’ to other people, saying ‘yes’ to those teeny people who matter might not be all that hard.
Choose joy. It’s not one of those things that just happens. You have to make it happen. So challenge the principal to a dance off in the hallway at school. Er, no, I mean, work hard at being joyful. And join the Happy Mama Movement for some ideas and inspiration on getting there and staying there.
Press pause. The term ‘on-the-go mom’ has always been so silly to me… Is there a such thing as a mom that’s not on the go like, basically, always? I can barely take a beat to sleep. But, we need moments to pause and reflect, to recharge and refocus, to empty our brains of the chaos so that it can start making human choices again. Plus, it gives you time to appreciate the beautiful things around you. When I’m speeding through life there are just so many things I overlook and forget. Things that I gloss over and don’t have time to really tuck away in my brain for later when I’m laying around my nursing home in need of something joyful other than old Ryan Gosling pics to clutch on to.
Dream a little. I don’t know about you, but my dreams are either nonexistent or entirely functional: a new fridge, a new dishwasher, a new stovetop. Take time to dream about things that you want and not just things you need. Then, maybe during one of those pauses you have planned, you can think about making some of them come true.
Be brave. I’m not saying you need to slay a dragon or finally serve that chick from the PTA the backhand she ordered, but kick the fear that’s holding you back from your awesome. It feels so good when you step out of your sweats-zone (which is my version of the comfort zone) and do something that makes you feel powerful. Also, your children will have their little mommy-is-just-mommy minds b-a-lown. I like blowing minds. Especially those of little faith. So, let this be the year you blow some minds. Take a first step, start something new, chop off your hair, lose 15 pounds, go to Zumba and dance, dance I say. (I will NOT be chopping off my hair, because I do NOT want a mini afro, all of the other bits are on my calendar though).
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